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Recently, I’ve noticed that I’m slacking.

I started this ADHD Coaching journey all gung-ho, and now this little engine is loosing steam. I need to be more consistent with my ADHD, and not dive in, wear out, and jump back out. 

So after a little brainstorming session, I discovered that there are definite coping skills I use to help me remember and be consistent with ADHD.

Here are a few things that have helped me be more consistent with ADHD. 

1. Use reminder apps. 

You know how that morning tone coming from your phone or your alarm clock can set you on edge? It works, right? You wake up and know it’s time to get up, so you do it and move on with your day. That’s how reminder apps work!

There are two i-Phone apps I really like on setting to-do alarms, “Due” and “Weave”.

“Due” works great at setting repetitive tasks like, “take your meds,” “write that blog post,” and “finish your lesson plans”. There are many options on the alarm setting with intervals of hours, days, or even weeks and months making it easy to remind yourself of important tasks in the future, like changing your oil. 
“Weave” is project oriented. This means that I can break a task down into bits (a skill that is crucial to us Attention Deficit kids) and set reminders by task piece, and not panic about the entire thing all at once. 

2. Being consistent with ADHD means “just do it”. 

How many times have I cried to the tune of, “I don’t wanna”?

My coach, Dana Rayburn, laughed when I told her this. “Make fun of yourself!” she said, “make it worse than it really is by saying it in a baby voice, ‘WAAA!!! I DON’T WWWWAAAANNNNAAA!!!”

I tried that, and found that I insulted myself by poking fun at my 2-year-old self-ego. So instead, I went back to the first thing she told me. I looked at myself in a mirror, said, “Self, you need to grow up. Just friggin do it.” 

It worked! I may have to let out some not-so-pretty words, but it is truly the best tool in my toolbox of consistency with ADHD!

3. Focus on one thing at a time. 

Those of us who understand Attention Deficit know that we focus on too many things at once, failing to finish one task because we start on another. By reminding yourself to “finish this first” you can prevent that distraction all-together. 

Also, remember to keep it simple. Don’t add complex tasks to your already growing to-do list. Do what you know needs to be done, and then think about the rest.

Watch for my next blog, which will talk about focusing on one thing at a time in more depth. 

Tell me, how do you stay on task? I want to hear from you!


Growing Up

Posted: February 11, 2012 in Mental Health, pets
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Some of my best friends are my dogs. Paisley, above, is my most challenging furry child.

I honestly think she has the doggie version of ADD.

Most would never guess that Paisley here has been in basic training, beginners agility, sequencing agility, and rally obedience courses totaling more than 32 weeks of professional training!

While that training no doubt saved her life, there is still little to show for it. Though she has a perfect sit, a nice heal, and a calm demeanor, she STILL finds creative things to destroy in the house sometimes.

But one thing is really working, maturity. The older Paisley gets, the more calm and relaxed she becomes. She has settled down into a wonderful home companion. She will never make a Rally or Agility champion, but she may make a glorious therapy dog within the next couple of years.

Naturally, I won’t be stopping her training anytime soon, because she always has new skills to learn.

The moral of the story is simple. Though learning and training are always necessary, sometimes the greatest solution to a problem is simply growing up and being mature about it.

Thank you, Dana, for those words of wisdom!

If you’re reading this blog, you probably know ADD/ADHD affects you or someone you love. You see the untidy bathroom or you feel the confusion, “Did I really leave it this messy?” You’re frustrated and overwhelmed either with yourself or that person you know.

The first thing you need to understand is that there is hope! Lots, and lots, and lots, and lots of HOPE! It takes effort and maturity, but we can win this battle, and if given the right tools, we will. 🙂

Those who suffer from ADD/ADHD understand frustration in menial tasks. They wonder why it’s so hard to do the laundry or break down and cry at the disaster that is their bills. That same frustration then causes an inability to perform in ways the average person can.

ADD/ADHD sufferers aren’t exactly helpless, though. On the contrary, they are brilliant minds who accomplish tasks ordinary people marvel at. In fact, there are no better workers than those with ADD or ADHD who have found their place.

But you see? That’s what makes ADD/ADHD so frustrating and so special at the same time. The trick is finding what we’re good at and embarking on that journey of finding ourselves in it. We can kick butt when we’re doing something we love!

Being awesome doesn’t exempt us from menial tasks, though; we must still figure out how to have a smack-down on The Stuff everywhere. What is The Stuff? The Stuff is paperwork, shoes, clothing, or trash. It’s just Stuff! It clutters minds, homes, and work-places and threatens to take over an otherwise happy world. It frustrates family and friends and keeps the sufferer from focusing (like that wasn’t a problem to begin with!).

So today, I’m here to tackle The Stuff! I have been given a great tool in a wonderful ADD/ADHD Life Coach, Dana Rayburn. I’ve finally thrown in the towel and said, “I need help.” And it’s true. The Stuff is being controlled one step at a time.

One of the first things Dana, my coach, told me to do was set up goals. This blog isn’t pointless, it has goals:

  1. To help me start writing regularly
  2. To keep documentation of what works, and what doesn’t
  3. To give hope and a resource to others dealing with the same problems.

I hope that as you follow this journey with me, you discover resources to help whatever you may be going through!

Dayna Hickman